I tell my students, “When you get these jobs that you have been so brilliantly trained for, just remember that your real job is that if you are free, you need to free someone else. If you have some power, then your job is to empower somebody else. This is not just a grab-bag candy game.”
There is a difference between managing and leading. Management is about implementation- strategic goals, charts, KPIs, etc. Leadership is about Building Culture, Teams and Vision. How are you spending your time? Are you mired in operational details in meeting and emails or are you out there leading culture. Emotional credibility and trust are hard-earned and easily lost. Let me help you craft your own values into a message that others can hear. Let me coach you to take key moments in any meeting to remind others of the meaning and importance of their work. Let me strategize your behavior so that others seek you out for empowering conversations. It’s time to become the leader you need to be to truly serve your community.
I certainly remember how difficult my first years were as a Director. There were a what seemed to be a million decisions to be made on processes and procedures that I was unaware of in the position that I previously held as a Principal. Everything was new and there was little time to contemplate in any given day. What I didn’t know yet was the pattern of “exceptions” that came my way on any given day. Most requests were exceptions to rules and policies. When was it appropriate to say yes without making a mess? I also was dealing with employees who were the “exceptions” – those who made a mess for others sometimes unwittingly.
Finding the balance of flexibility in good decision making comes with experience. The best athletes in the world need a coach during their career but many of us who are CEOs or leaders find ourselves frighteningly alone during difficult times. My experience with cognitive and physical coaching allows for me to have a conversation that allows you to find the right solutions with thoughtful questions being generated and explored. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have someone who is not in your organization give prudent advice and help mediate your thinking strategies? Let’s book a chat!
When I read Morrison’s quote, I feel challenged that maybe I haven’t done enough as an individual. I am free. I have power. Have I freed another and have I empowered others? As I write this in 2018, the year I turn 50, I reflect back and wonder if I have been enough for those who needed me and those who may still need me. I think of all those who helped and inspired me along the way and I want to live up to what they gave me.
I am not sure how it happened but a few years ago, I was asked to speak to a group of Finnish and Estonian women about leadership in an international context and about my experience as female leader. Since that first speech, I have had the pleasure to be on multiple panels, give keynote addresses and run workshops for women. One followed another but although I felt these little events were wonderful, I am not sure if I made any real change for another.
I decided the format of what I was doing was not hands on enough and I needed to give women direct practice. I also felt that if the mind-body connection was missing from the discussion, I would not be able to give women the tools to overcome issues of presence. I wanted to tell all the tips and tricks that helped me, find ways to find women with potential and create a transformational experience; this is why I began
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Inspiring others is through the stories of how you failed and overcame struggle. It requires vulnerability to deconstruct the idea of presenting a construct of perfection. In fact, in may be the exact opposite. What are the stories you tell others? We relate to each other through struggle. Let’s craft your stories to share in quick meetings, pitches, speeches, TedTalks and keynotes. You have experience that others can learn from and if the story is powerful enough, you too find your own inspiration and resilience.